First, I am not a big fan of dating before the latter years of high school and even then, rarely does anything positive come from teen romance.Usually (especially for boys) dating results in heartache.However I also knew of other kids who were doing sexual things over games of truth or dare at that age.I'm an 11 year old boy and hit puberty about 2 years ago and yes i have sexual desires but i would never ever ever ever ever do "THAT" to anybody and neither would ANYONE i know.I think that as long as you and your child have discussed this situation, you should be fine. Though I wouldnt say it was peer pressure, though that was present.We just sat together all the time and the biggest step we took was a hug, nothing changed from when were just friends and it was all innocent fun.So far,they havent gone out anywhere like on a date and they just hang around and watch movies and play video games.
Third, girls shouldn't have a one on one date until they are at least sixteen. A teenage girl should always be on equal footing psychologically and mentally when she is dating.An astonishing 40% of 14-18 year old girls have sex they don't want simply because they don't want to upset their boyfriends.Finally, when kids are in elementary school and junior high, have frequent discussions about what's going on in your child's class. Then, if your daughter says that she has a boyfriend and wants to date- ask specifically what she means.Then, be sure to tell her why you are so "mean"- because you love her like crazy. My 11 year old daughter has a "boyfriend", what should I do?If she tells you the latter, let her know that, while others in her class can date, that's not what the kids in your family do. There's no love, it's just friendship and everyone wants "love". Let's review the boyfriend-girlfriend situation again since many have responded to my blog about 11 year olds and romance.Tell her she has the rest of her life to date if she wants, but for right now, she needs to concentrate on getting to know boys as friends, on her athletics, her friendships with girls and her school work. Some other kids in my class have boyfriends, (some since 2nd grade! Of course most 11 year olds don't relate romantically the same way older teens do. First, encouraging friendship is always better since kids relate more honestly when friendship, rather than romance is the focus.