Do age differences matter or should love prevail over all?
I think I am going to stick with my positive outlook and go with "love conquers all." All marriages have hurdles that have to be overcome. The issues that two people who are married and who are roughly the same age face may be similar or may be different than the issues that couples with vast age differences face.
In , a 1953 film adaptation of the 1951 play by Frederick Hugh Herbert, Maggie Mc Namara—playing 22-year-old Patty O’Neill—asks her 30-year-old suitor, “Haven’t you ever heard that the girls is supposed to be half the man’s age, plus seven? In the 1950s, Nation of Islam leader Elijah Muhammad “taught that a wife’s ideal age was half the man’s age plus seven”; this age gap should make up for women’s maturing more quickly than men, as well as ensure that the husband was sufficiently authoritative over his wife.
When Malcolm X met his future wife Betty Sanders, he interpreted the fact that their ages fit the rule of seven as a sign that they were destined for each other.
If you're at the end of this list, what on Earth could you have in common with someone near the beginning? When my divorce was final, I went out of my way to date women of different ages ranging anywhere from twenty-two to fifty-three years old.
There is a reason that most couples today do not have a significant age difference. I found that with younger women, I felt attracted but bored.
The rule is widely cited, but its origins are hard to pin down.
Does the gap look larger or smaller between someone who is age 65 and someone who is age 80? With this gap, no one is robbing the cradle, and no one is worrying about whether one person wants to have kids, or not!
In fact, I have several friends in their 40s who are married to men in their 60s and life is grand!
(I can't think of any men I know who are in their 40s and married to women in their 60s, but I'm sure life is grand for them too! It seems like there is that period of time where the perception of an age gap gets smaller. The different between age 30 and age 45 isn't as big!
What remains consistent, however, is that all relationships have their fair share of hurdles, and take their fair share of work.
He Said: It's my experience that maturity and age are two things that rarely co-mingle.
Buunk of the University of Groningen, examined desired minimum and maximum ranges across different ages by approaching people in public spaces—railway stations, libraries, malls—and asking them (anonymously) what ages they would consider appropriate for five different levels of relationship: marriage, serious relationship, falling in love, casual sex, and sexual fantasies.