Over the past few years I have written about boundaries, your personal limits of what you will and won’t put up with, many times.
You have to stop acting like every guy could be the one and like there’s a fire – there isn’t.Do not erode your self-esteem by disrespecting yourself in a relationship. This is a fundamental part of Whether they tell lies about the future to get what they want in the present or they just refuse to talk about the future, if you’re involved with Pinocchio or you’re with someone who can’t see their way to making plans with you, cut them off as soon as this becomes evident.Some people just can’t help but talk themselves up a storm at the beginning.Don’t make it up as you go along either and come up with your own reasons for why you think they behave as they do. Respect your own boundaries, so that either others do, or you recognise when they don’t.But do not make exceptions because you will keep lengthening your yardstick. Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.You’ll know it’s only their terms when you try to instigate your own orbalance things out – they’ll shut down/disappear/get confrontational or pretend to agree and then revert back to doing their own thing.