That dad factor is priceless: Children who remain close to their fathers are less distressed by divorce, and dads who are connected to their kids are more likely to keep up their financial obligations.In fact, friendlier divorces benefit mothers, fathers, and kids.Of course, it could not be left at that when one night during dinner with another family after church my daughter blurted out, "Daddy’s dating Megan’s mom so it’s like were pretend sisters." what I want my friends to know. Doesn’t she know there's a reason we're divorced?
Gary Neuman, creator of the Sandcastles divorce therapy program used in many courts and author of Helping Your Kids Cope With Divorce the Sandcastles Way.
With each new developmental stage, they have new questions and worries. D., a leading divorce researcher and coauthor of What About the Kids?
That's because divorce plants a persistent fear in children, no matter how old they are: "If one parent can leave another, it's only natural for a child to wonder, 'How do I know they won't leave me? Raising Your Children Before, During, and After Divorce.
But I can tell you this: There's nothing worse than hearing "Daddy is dating Megan’s* mom".
But I did hear those words, in stereo, as my twin daughters let me know as soon as they knew.
When my husband and I finally agreed it was time to throw in the towel, I wasn't fooling myself: I knew that for Maggie, then 5, and Evan, then 3, our divorce would be a tragedy. The first three days after Jack moved out, Evan screamed himself awake; Maggie cried herself to sleep.