More likely to get a response: A message that is directly responsive to several things in the object of your affection’s profile.So you’ve caught on that “hey wuzz up” is generally understood to be an unoriginal message. However, copying and pasting some bizarre, rambling message isn’t going to trick someone into thinking you wrote all of that for them.Learn a little something about the person you’re messaging, and reference that in your communiqué.“Hey gurl, luv ur pics” is not going to get a response.Anyways, he's probably pretty trustworthy, because look below, at the stock photo girl he posted on his page! A lot of it is basic, but not SO basic that it hasn't kept hundreds and thousands of online daters from violating these EXTREMELY BASIC principles anyway. Make your message one that someone — anyone — could conceivably want to answer. Chiara Atik at How About We has an important checkpoint for that message you're about to send off: Does it PROVE you read the profile of the person you're sending it to? Because then he or she isn't going to respond (unless you are unreasonably hot, in which case, what's your deal? You might think your boilerplate message is a clever one, but anyone who's had an online profile for more than two weeks can seriously smell the arrival of one in her inbox.Writing an interesting question or two can't guarantee a response, but NOTHING CAN. Don't waste your time and don't waste anyone else's — you have to put in a little work this way, but just do it.Again, you'd think these things would go without saying. Online dating: It is not that hard, and yet so many people make it so hard.
Sure, it’s a pain to actually read through profiles and send unique messages to each person, but aren’t you here to find a date?You might as well find out right away if your senses of humor* line up.*Bonus advice: Please don't just write "I have a good sense of humor" and expect everyone to believe you. It's good to express enthusiasm for shared interests, but don't make them up, and don't be weird about it.You can only get so excited about both liking pizza. ), is really into the idea that guys' messages to girls' should assume brain-deadness on the part of the recipients: "You need to make it easy for women and help them think to avoid ending up with message abandonment issues," he writes, suggesting that guys send girls messages that ask questions but also partially answer them, so it isn't too hard or whatever. Though much of what you'll find among internet advice on internet dating is bad, some of it is pretty spot-on and helpful.A one-sentence message probably isn’t saying enough, but you also don’t want to send a novel.Responding to a few items in a person’s profile will take somewhere between three and eight sentences; if you find yourself writing a six-paragraph missive, work that delete key.Respect that and don’t waste anyone’s time – including your own.