One thing that is very different in Japan is that it is not uncommon for a woman to ask a man out.
I have to confess that I had a crush on a boy in junior high and my friends forced me to do the kokuhaku ritual.
Unlike Japan, California is a true melting pot of cultures but since I had so little dating experience back home, I was nervous about getting into the dating scene in America.
Mostly because I had no idea how the American dating culture worked.
Of course, this explanation is not meant to justify men going to .
If it were the other way around, men probably wouldn’t feel too happy about their partners going to a “host club“.
So, what do Japanese men do to vent their frustrations?
They go to And why should this be so upsetting to women, beyond just being jealous of a boyfriend or spouse spending time with other women?
Even though it had been my dream to live in America, I was very excited but nervous at the same time.
Growing up in Japan my parents were really strict and so I didn’t get an opportunity to start going on dates until after I graduated from high school.
I did have a Japanese boyfriend but I ended things with him to go to school in California.
(Hmm, actually, visiting a host club may not be such a bad idea if any of you ladies want your partner to see how they like it with the roles reversed.) Yes, men will be men, and women will be women, but it’s natural for people to want to vent their frustrations somewhere and also to care about how they’re perceived by others, regardless of gender.
The article ends by summarizing that what’s more important than the difference in opinion between the sexes is communicating with our partners (whether it’s about men going to what may or may not be seedy clubs, or any other topic), so that we can be more aware and considerate of their needs and feelings — which I guess is common sense really, but still good to keep in mind, since I’m sure we can all be happier that way.
Unfortunately it doesn’t always work out as the boy wasn’t interested in me.