My point in all this is that if you believe that you’re meeting all his needs, you will be blind to areas where the relationship needs to grow.If you want the relationship to move forward, find deeper areas where you can reach him and inspire him.you don’t know his motivation or what he “gets” from it.
It’s been a policy of mine to avoid making ANY comment along those lines, thinking that women hear stuff like that from guys all the time on first dates and that it might seem like a “line,” or a come-on, or insincere.
I had a lot of male friends but very few boyfriends.
I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and I do not understand why he won’t stop flirting with other girls.
and the moment you start bluffing about how much you’re willing to tolerate, he knows you’ll tolerate just about anything. Because if you’re afraid enough to lie about your limits, then it’s pretty likely that you don’t actually have limits you’re willing to enforce. Fear that this guy is the one true love of their life.
Do you know what’s at the core of why women put up with behavior they find unacceptable? The reality of it is that if you want to mentally and emotionally be in a place where you have any say in your relationship, you have to diminish your fear of loss.
The fact is, this whole pattern of people projecting a fantasy version of someone onto the actual person is ludicrous.