Last week I was having lunch with a girl friend and we somehow ended up on the topic of romance and the current dating scene.
By the end of lunch, we reached the conclusion that romance is pretty much dead.
Then there is the financial cost of that undertaking - gym memberships, clothing, salon visits, teeth whitening, cosmetics and wonder creams are not cheap.
Together, trying to put the best foot forward is not an easy undertaking if you are making the effort to find a good mate, especially if you are particularly self-conscious or have been away from the dating scene in a while.
The third issue is competing with other women for a good mate. Yes, by using good clothes and a winning personality one is competing against potential rivals for a keeper of a man.
Related to this issue of competition is that many women try to determine what potential rivals are doing so that they can be unique, but not too unique as to become freakish.
Friends who are active daters have reported to me some of the backstabbing things they have done to each other, like saying "you look super" when they think their friend looks fat, or telling a friend that a guy they both like is gay or unavailable, just to deter the friend from competing.
However, that pales in comparison to the competition women are in when it comes to sex.