Very simply, from what I have seen, jealousy stems from a type of greed and insecurity.The greed comes from wanting your partner to be “yours” and only yours. The insecurity stems from fear of being compared, fear of losing your partner, fear of not being good enough for your partner, and more.Over time, I noticed there were several common questions that I was being asked.I have compiled the most commonly asked questions about how to deal with jealousy based on my experience.This jealousy can consume you and leaves you with an extremely uncomfortable feeling inside that doesn’t seem to go away, despite your best efforts.It is much harder to deal with and can end relationships.It is influenced by an animal instinct: the act of sexual intercourse itself. It takes a lot of work on your part to understand your partner and accept their past. Once you are over your jealousy feelings, it takes a lot of time to heal the wounds that were caused by the jealousy in the first place.
↑ Back to Top ↑ In total, my jealousy lasted one year, and took an additional six months of hard work to finally eradicate it.What you need to identify is whether you are jealous of the act of sex itself, or the emotions tied in with it, or both. The top factors I have encountered are influences from virginity, religion, upbringing (how you were raised), cultural view of sex and societal view of sex.Are you jealous of past relationships, casual hookups, or both? A virgin may become very jealous over a partner’s past because they feel that if they are a virgin, their partner should be one too, and anything less is unacceptable.If you are able to understand their perspective, it can help the jealousy go away.↑ Back to Top ↑ Your imagination is your worst enemy.A few months ago I wrote article about my past struggles with jealousy problems in my relationship.