Woman C: I was so nervous I wouldn't be able to hear the guys I went out with and they'd think I was ditzy, but most of the guys I went on dates with didn't seem to mind repeating themselves. The only difference I could think of would be a deaf person would have less awareness about noise level, but it does depend on your partner. Woman A: The benefits were that they could help me to order food in restaurants and communicate with people.When I began having sex as a teenager, I was really nervous that they'd accidentally see my cochlear implants and be weirded out. They might say I took advantage of her because of her disability." I've never had a guy say those things to me, but that was my biggest worry. If they know they're noisy, they'll just restrain it as much as possible. The drawbacks were that they didn't understand what it is like to not be able to hear.
By the time I was 18 months old, I was declared profoundly deaf, meaning I cannot hear anything.Woman B: I honestly don't have a preference between uppercase and lowercase d/Deaf.I see making a distinction between the two often divides the culturally proud Deaf from those who have a similar experience and shared oppressions, but are maybe not friends with tons of Deaf people or what have you (because of accessibility and other factors).I'd also have to try and find a well-lit place so I could see him and read his lips.Sexually, there was always the issue of whether I should keep my hearing aids (and later, cochlear implants) on or not.Woman A: I had my first boyfriend at 14, but not a "real" one until I was 21. Woman C: I didn't have an official date until my freshman year of high school.