That was just what I was attracted to and what was attracted to me.
The man I married is 8 years older than I am (I was married at 25 and am still happily married and in love 5 years later and 10 years into our relationship in general).
You’ve likely spent your whole life living with your parents, and haven’t had a chance to get out into the world. You’ve probably moved out of your hometown, or at least (I hope) out of your parents house. From a 17 year old perspective, I get why this might seem appealing. honestly, barring some sort of deeper long-term history between you two, it’s really messed up.
Your high school friends are the same friends you’ve had since you were 13 (probably), and your ability to make decisions about your life thus far has been fairly limited. Looking back on your school years, they seem really, really far away. Like, if you met them when they were 17 and you were 9, and now you’re dating? Again - not necessarily from the younger perspective looking forward, but from the older person’s perspective looking backward. If you remember this answer in 8 years, I’d be curious what you think of 17 year olds then.
If you love him, and he loves you, that's all that matters. But, my parents are 12 years apart and they've been married for 22 years.
We've been going out for almost 4 months now and everything's going really well and we get on with each other amazingly All my friends think it's really strange though...
Maybe get them to meet him so they can see for themselves what he's like and maybe he can prove them wrong and make them think, he seems like a great guy, he seems like he'll look after our daughter.
Instead of saying whether it’s wrong or not, which is a pretty subjective judgment, this is just a bit of perspective. You haven’t gone to college yet, you haven’t moved out & lived on your own. You’ve had nearly eight years of living on your own - almost a third of your entire life you’ve had to shape who you are, where you want to be, your career, etc. And even if there is a long-term history, that age gap is *huge* as you move backwards in time.
Im 17 (girl) and me and 23 year old have been dating for a while now, my parents dont know about me and him and I dont think they'll like it, i'm afraid to tell them, my 18 year old brother knows and hes really over protective, he promised me he wouldnt tell them but I'm scared he might, he comes round when they go out and i go round to his flat all the time, we've been going out for 4 months now, maybe my parents are suspecting things I dont know!!
He took my virginity too, but I love him so I dont care and its legal here in england, I just dont know what to do about my parents and is it right with us two dating?
I'd say as long as this guy is treating you well and isnt controlling.
I'd be honest with your parents, sit them down and tell them the truth.
See how I met him is I am academically advanced and I completed high-school early and I'm currently a college student attending university and he's a graduate student.