There are many positive elements to the cultural stereotype of a Jewish family – warmth, lots and lots of love, unconditional support, and deep, intense family values (The food can be pretty terrific, too).
It can seem like an over-the-top free for all sometimes, and even when you grow up in the middle of a big, close Jewish family, like I did, it can take a lifetime to get used to.
So dating Jewish boys was pretty much the norm all the way through high school, and there would have been strong resistance at home to my having a boyfriend who wasn’t Jewish.
Once I left for college there was more freedom to do what I wanted, but since I’ve always felt very Jewish identified, I still tended to gravitate towards Jewish guys.
When Jews date non-Jews, in many ways it can seem no different than any new relationship. Is this something that’s going to be done separately from the person he or she is dating? usually describe my religion as “Jewish, heavy on the –ish.” (Read: I will not go to services or fast on Yom Kippur, but I will swing by your breaking-the-fast party and bring some schmear.)But during a dating dry spell that’s longer (and dryer) than Moses’s 40 days of wandering in the desert, I agreed when asked me to check out some popular religious dating apps and sites.If a close attachment does develop, even if neither person is particularly religious, shared Jewish customs and values can help form a solid foundation in building a lasting relationship.This common bond is one of the benefits of Jews dating and marrying each another.Orthodox Jews follow religious laws most strictly – for example, eating a kosher diet and strictly observing the Jewish Sabbath (Saturday) – and would be less likely to date Reform or Conservative Jews, who are more flexible about their level of religious practice.