(See #8) But it makes no sense to settle early for someone we’re not head over heels for.And it never pays to settle for a man who isn’t cut out for marriage and/or fatherhood.10.Mistakes are unavoidable in dating, and the best we can hope for is that we learn from them and go on to form good relationships.I find that women often make poor choices because they suffer from low self-worth.We Figure That Anything is Better Than Being Single Having a partner carries many benefits in life.Personally, socially, economically and even professionally, people fare better with a mate.We shouldn’t “throw good money after bad.”One set of studies found that as singles get older, they tend to “double down” with low quality prospects.
We Wait Too Long to Date Seriously There are a whole host of good reasons to find one’s life partner before the age of 30.
So it’s understandable that we don’t want to remain single. The mistake we make is that we exit the dating pool too early out of fear that nothing better will come along.
As we age and the supply of potential mates decreases, this fear is understandable.
We Fail to Set Boundaries We find ourselves putting up with behaviors we swore we’d never tolerate. Yet we still don’t speak up for fear of rocking the boat (which is already leaky). This sends a clear message that we lack self-respect, thereby ensuring more bad treatment. It’s crucial to know that we can survive without the relationship, and may be called upon to do so. We Don’t Acknowledge Relationship Stagnation We should see growth, or forward movement, in any healthy relationship.
Increased intimacy, bonding, growing feelings of love and the desire to be permanently exclusive with our partner are the natural products of a compatible and promising relationship.
Here are the 10 biggest mistakes I’ve heard from women in the years I’ve been coaching and counseling them:1.