Nor will your marriage become happy because he was busted.It’s not like his “justifications” become less useful for his escape.All minds operate by imagining extremes because of our instincts. Reactions, as you recall from biology 101, are instinctive responses with only one purpose: to save your life. An early client helped me named it the SEW technique.
These men tend to be willing to take the program also. The first is lighter to read, the other one is our textbook for certifying our counselors. Then seeing how logical everything is, they trust us enough to get the program. There are too many urban myths and TV shows that support this idea. Getting him to confess his sins and change his ways is absolutely the wrong approach. We get emails all the time through our free question portal from women who confronted their husbands.Your husband didn’t do what he did because he hates you.If that were the case, or if he were mad as hell at you, he would have helped you catch him and then rubbed your face in it.You may consider yourself well within the boundaries of “being right”. We know that, but forget it because of the blinding visceral reaction.Additionally, busting him will NEVER initiate a positive change in the current frustrations that got him on the wrong road to begin with. I was personally thrilled by the ultimatum given to the company by hackers, because them offering illicit escapades to a married person having marriage trouble is like offering wine to an alcoholic.