The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, recommended the suitors to see each other before going through with marriage procedures.
That is very important because it is unreasonable for two people to be thrown into marriage and be expected to have a successful marital life, full of love and affection, when they know nothing of each other. This ruling does not contradict the Qur’anic verse that says, “…believing men and women should lower their gaze” (An-Nur: 30).
ROMANCERomance, if not checked, may mean wasting time, effort and dignity. Besides, the concept of love in Islam is very unique, when a Muslim loves something or somebody, it must be for the sake of Allah; the same applies to hatred.
Let us examine the difference between love, dating, romance & marriage.
After being “involved” with a person for a time, and then breakiing up and going through the feelings of remorse or loneliness and unhappiness, and then moving on to the next “relationship” and then another break-up, hard feelings, sadness and then yet another series of dating, hanging out, breaking up and so on.
Definitely a married couple who have both been in “relationships” prior to marriage, falling in love, arguing, breaking up and then going through the sad feelings and repeating this over and over, are much more likely to end up in a very rough marriage and very possible divorce.
There is to be no physical relationship whatsoever before marriage.
From an Islamic perspective, in choosing a partner, the most important factor that should be taken into consideration is Taqwa(piety and consciousness of Allah).
The copy of the widely used holy text held by the library is known for being one of the oldest in the world.To give an example, the couple know each other for years, are intimate, live together and so on.Yet somehow this does not guarantee the success of the future marriage.There is even an entire surah (chapter) named Al Talaq (The Divorce).Marriage in Islam is a beautiful way for two people to bring together their families, heritage and culture for the purpose of bringing more little Muslims into the world, in love, commitment and dedication to Allah, His Book, His prophet, peace be upon him, and surrender to Him in peace (Islam). First of all, thank you for seeking knowledge and asking from the sources of Islam.