Maybe you can find someone on POF, but I'm sure a quick google will allow you to find sites with people that dig leather/latex exclusively. The people there won't have (too many) issues with your fetish and you might meet others that share your same desires.
Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing...Since sexuality IS tied in with all aspects of the body and mind, I wonder if there is a connection there. I agree, that looking for a match is always hard, and the more particular one is about one's requirements, the harder it gets. Makes you feel better when you are sad, and when you are happy, it's just a way of sharing that joy too. Personally, I don't think having a fetish is the issue......is having a fetish to the extreme that it rules your whole life that is an issue. Its on a vanilla site and has no shock value because its now....vanilla.I also find myself, that just plain HUGS, when done "right," have a nervous system calming component to them, and provide a lesser relief to the system like what you describe. Actually, the main thing I'm intrigued by, is the similarity between what you describe, and the needs of a person named Temple Grandin (a famously successful autistic woman ), who periodically requires a form of restraint herself, not for sexual reasons per se, but just to deal with a certain otherwise unbearable nervous tension. Having one spawn on the spectrum, compression is one of the things suggested as a means to calm and reorder him. It didn't work for us, but there is definitely a link I think. It leaves no room for creativity other than what "You" want.....I would find that selfish to say the least. I thought if it was just something you did "sometimes" it was normally just called a kink and that fetish normally implied it either became part of someones entire lifestyle or at the very least was a mandatory aspect in their sexual life But surely that would just as easily apply to the "fetish" of being hetro or gay Both of those will also apply to your entire sexual escapades as well as directly influencing many aspects of someones every day life too^^^^^ But see.... Maybe wearing "normal" clothes would now become a fetish??? I thought if it was just something you did "sometimes" it was normally just called a kink and that fetish normally implied it either became part of someones entire lifestyle or at the very least was a mandatory aspect in their sexual life Your fetishes might not have anything to do with you not getting any replies.POF isn't known for being a great place to find people with specific kinks/fetishes. Its not, to my knowledge, a popular site for lesbians.And it's not, pretty sure as well, a popular site for people into your particular fetish.I don't like pain, and don't EVER want to hurt someone. even my pastor & fellow churchgoers accept it without notice or ridicule.