It shouldn't be mistaken as a symptom of a generation unable to commit; it's simply what you tell someone when you realize that you don't like him or her all that much.
For all the anxiety about "hookup culture" the truth is that for many people older than 20, "hookup culture" will sound remarkably like, well, "college." Indeed, students shifted from dating to what was essentially hooking up during a wild time -- perhaps you've heard of it -- called the '70s.
Broadway sounds a lot like your average member of the "hookup" generation, save for one detail: None of these men have made it into her bed.
That's because, as Broadway writes in her memoir, "Sexless in the City," she's saving herself for marriage.
Like me, and like Broadway, she has worked her way through a number of men and says, "I think what I have been seeking in some form from all of these men is permanence." Near the end of her essay, she ends a third date by asking the guy when she'll see him next.
"That's a loaded question," he says, offering a meandering explanation: "He said he had just gotten out of a long relationship, and now he was single and didn't really know how this whole dating thing works, but he was seeing a lot of other people, and he liked me." I've heard that speech before; I've given that speech before.
These books add to a loudening cautionary chorus: Young women are hooking up and tuning out emotionally.
She's met them on Craigslist, through online dating sites and at singles bars.
I lost my virginity at 16 with my first love and best friend; it was all champagne and roses.
It was also as-porn-ational sex: I enthusiastically guided us into nearly every position I'd long marveled at online.
Together, they're like the Village People for straight women. I was like a college freshman filling out the Career Center's job placement questionnaire, making an enthusiastic check mark next to every box; except, in my case, I was checking off men.
During this time, I told my friend Sarah and her boyfriend about the latest person I was seeing. Most of them were great; others led me on and made me cry.
A few months back, a New York Times Magazine piece about chastity on Ivy League campuses relied on this false binary: It pitted a prim Harvard abstinence advocate against a campus sex blogger (who recently posted a photo of her face covered in splooge). I don't exactly advocate picking up guys at frat parties and screwing atop the keg as the path to marital bliss.