But with a neutral response, this is where things become interesting (and controversial).
I actually felt the same way about it until I undertook a research project a year and a half ago that led me to join 18 different dating sites, going on a date with a girl from each one.
Don’t just go for dinner or coffee because it’s “what people do”.
In fact, those venues can be difficult for inexperienced men because it forces constant conversation in an interview style (sitting across from each other).
This can actually cause feelings of unfamiliarity and defensiveness. Start creating more opportunities for yourself by approaching women regularly. And you should only compliment her when she earns it.
If you treat her like a stranger, she’s going to feel like a stranger. You have no idea whether or not this girl is good for you. One real compliment carries far more weight than several fake ones.
Studies confirm these findings as well: “Women may perceive a responsive stranger as less desirable for different reasons,” said Birnbaum in a press release.