There are a lot of adult dating sites that don't have a lot of users, or use sneaky marketing tactics like the bait and switch you're referring to.
We've all seen them - the ads show a bevy of beautiful women in your area, but when you sign up, you realize that the women were just ads that were geographically targeted to your search preferences.
You can use different handles in each section under the same account too, so no one will be any wiser if you want to advertise for one thing in one place without ruining your chances for something more should it come up.
After Lavalife, I only know of a few others that are worth mentioning, although I've yet to find one that's truly ideal.
Every users home page also shows a random list of live cam feeds from different users - which although it makes the page load a bit slower than normal, is still a fun, frivolous, and very frequently used feature.
There are currently no membership costs for Fling.com, although their homepage states this is a "introductory trial offer for a limited time".
Technically a free dating site in that it doesn't charge to contact other members, but this could change at any time and some features require a paying membership.
"Fling is an online space for people who would like to indulge in their sexual fantasies.
My first recommendation would be to try Lavalife's Intimate Encounters section; you sign up with them and then decide which of the three sections you want to be a part of (Dating, Relationships or Intimate Encounters).does have it's own sign in page however, as well as a different format, look and feel.Fling has a number of interesting features that a lot of other casual dating sites forgo, including video chat, a blackbook feature (essentially a friends list), the ability to "safely" search (meaning: shut off viewing of explicit photos and video feeds),and put your profile in discreet mode (only allowing people in your blackbook to view your profile).These recommendations are just for a snapshot in time.Good sites can go bad, and those I don't recommend may improve.Meet other adult members in your area looking for sex. "is a relationship site for people who want a fling, casual dating, or sexual encounter with men, women, transsexuals and/or couples.